Scheduling is important.
A friend of mine has always been an inspiration to me in the way that she plans nights in just for her. When asked if free on a Friday or Saturday night she’ll confidently answer ‘No, sorry, I’ve got plans.’ To her close friends she goes as far as saying ‘I’m having a me night.’ This may just be a night to do some pampering, catch up on some TV shows or enjoy some take out on her own.
More importantly, she’s scheduling time for herself.
The reason this inspired and continues to inspire me is that I would never do this. I often wanted to do this but would give in to invitations due to FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). I would not hold my ground in valuing plans I made with myself, worrying I would miss out on an adventure. Over time, I got better at stating that I have plans, rather than mumbling it guiltily. Sometimes, I still cave but I’m proud to see that changing. I believe I am a better human when I take some time out just for me to regroup. I truly believe everyone is when they do that. It’s a method that has helped me towards doing this more and more easily, I now schedule the time into my calendar. I mark it up as I would with any other catch up and find that I stick to it because it’s in my calendar. It’s like a date with myself!
And on this date, I incorporate indulgence into most elements of the night. I fell in love with the following suggestion and the notion that surrounds it:
“Wear something outrageous to hold your hair back while washing your face.”
By making the simple things indulgent, it triples my anticipation of staying in. I get excited about watching my shows, trying a new product, even putting on fresh pjs. I do treat myself to a bag (yes, A bag) of Pods, or having a lovely meal.
It’s thanks to my friend that I recognise scheduling time for yourself is important. It should be taken just as seriously as other engagements.
So if you’re not already, take it seriously – organise it in, get it into your schedule, and reap the benefits.
If you’re having trouble making yourself a priority, Christie is your accountability partner.
